Overcoming retirement guilt - reframe the conversa…

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I want to tell you how to reframe your retirement guilt so that you can overcome it. The biggest issue I had with different feelings of guilt I had when I retired was I was framing them in a way that made me the bad guy. And whatever it is that was, you know, creating the guilt, the good guy, so to speak. So one example of retirement guilt is you have all this time, you should be using it in service of others. And in my mind, I was framing that as you big, lazy lump. Here you are just doing whatever you like, living your best life. And there's all these people that could use your time and energy. So I was framing it in a way that didn't give me a shot at overcoming retirement guilt. So. One of the things that I did was when I realized that retirement guilt is simply a product of our programming. We've been programmed since we were little to believe that we only have value when we're producing for others. So when I realized that that was just my programming talking, I thought, well, what would I do if some scammer called me? You know, these these people who call and, you know, they're like. I heard your business could use a loan or, you know, whatever it is, calling about your car insurance, whatever. If one of them called me and tried to guilt me into buying their product or service, it would be laughable. I don't trust them. I don't believe them. And I 100% know that every word coming out of their mouth is designed for their benefit. Well, that's exactly what's happening with retirement guilt. It's just been placed in our minds over our entire lifetimes. But every word of retirement guilt has been carefully selected by those who benefit from you believing it. So you just have to look at your retirement guilt like it's an online scammer or someone spamming your phone with services or products they're trying to sell you. You just have to when you start hearing those guilty thoughts, you just have to say, I know you're just trying to sell me something. You're trying to extract value from me and I'm not playing. So reframe your retirement guilt into whatever works for you. But first acknowledge that it's just decades and decades of programming replaying in your mind to continue to extract value from you.