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What are five things that I did to deprogram my capitalism programming after retirement? This is a great question, mostly because it's a list. Now I do like me a list of three, but you asked for five, and five is two more than three, which is obviously going to be better. So I'm going to have to do this in parts because it's going to be too long. And I hate multi-part videos. I really do. But this will probably be 40 minutes because I just tend to ramble on like just this preamble was too long. But I'm going to tell you the first thing that comes to mind that I had to deprogram once I retired, and this one took me a while, I had to reestablish who I was as a person. Because what had happened was when I first started moving into the workforce, I realized that I was kind of a lot, and I'm still kind of a lot. And I realized that if I was going to be successful, I was going to be successful. And I realized that if I was going to be successful, in the space that I was moving into, which was like digital marketing, software development, et cetera, I wasn't going to be able to be 100% who I was and enjoy financial and professional success. Now I know a lot of people can do that. A lot of people will be 100% genuine, true to themselves, and find lots of professional success. They just find a niche, niche, niche, niche, where they can excel. And I realized that I was going to be successful without having to moderate their personality at all. That wasn't me. So I had to change who I was quite a bit to be successful. Because again, I am a lot. And I, over the 40 years of my career, the line started getting blurred between who I actually was and who I, who I was pretending to be to enjoy professional success. And when I retired, I realized that I was kind of, I was viewing my real self as this old dirty sack that I had kind of tossed off to the side. And, and I was viewing my professional self as kind of like the good version of me or the better version of me. And it took me a while to realize that I had thrown away all the good bits. Because when you retire, all you have left is personal relationships. And I don't think that moderating who you are, in order to make a personal relationship work is a success strategy for meaningful relationships. I could be wrong. But I mean, obviously, we want to be nice to people. And you know, we don't want to take advantage of people and things like that. But I feel like we should be able to be 100% who we are in our personal relationships. And so what I realized was, when I continued to try to like moderate who I was in personal relationships, they were so much work. And I realized that those few people that I was moderating, they were so much work. And I realized that those few people that I am around that I can be 100% who I am, it doesn't feel like work at all, if it might be for them. It doesn't feel like work to me. And I just realized that I had to acknowledge that the quote unquote, perceived better version of me was just a thin film of paint that I had thrown on myself to survive in the workplace. And I needed to go rustle through that dirty bag of characteristics that I had thrown away. And I had to go through that dirty bag of characteristics that I had thrown away, and reestablish that's actually who I am, for what it was like, whatever, like I could go on and on and on about personality flaws and character flaws that I have, but it is who I am. And I just had to reestablish like, this is who I actually am. That's just this guy that I put on as sort of bill suit that I zipped into each morning, so that I could survive in society and in the workplace. So that's number one, I'll do a playlist with with all five. But it's a great question. I appreciate it.