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user says they're working two days a week and feel anxious and sort of physically nauseous and whatnot on those days when they aren't working. Is this normal? So I'm not sure what normal is. I'm certainly not normal and I don't know anything about psychology or therapy or any of those things but I can share my experience and I asked this person a couple of follow-up questions because you know I just didn't know enough to formulate any sort of a response or to see whether it related to me at all and it very much related to me. So I had the same problem when I initially retired. I had this sort of feeling of dread and worry and anxiety, a special version of it for a few months. I attributed it to basically you know how they say I don't know if it's true or not but they say people who like lose a limb have phantom pain. They'll say like you know they lost a you know an arm or whatever and they feel like it still hurts. They feel like it's still there. It still hurts. Not making light of that at all but it's the closest analogy I could come up with. It was like that for me. It was like I had lost the career, the business, the job. Not lost it but I'd left it and yet it felt like it was still there creating the anxiety. It was like just like phantom. Pain because I'd be like I you know I'd wake up in the middle of the night and I'd be like I need to be worried. I need to be stressed and then I'd be you know about what and I'd say I don't know and so it took me a long time to figure out that I was just reliving patterns that I'd lived for you know 10-15 years when I had the business. So is it normal to be stressed out and stuff when you're off work? I don't know if it's normal. I don't know if it's normal to be stressed out and stuff when you're off work. I don't know if it's normal to be stressed out and stuff when you're off work. I did it and I asked this individual how did they like their weekends when they own their business and they said I was anxious during the weekends and I was super pumped and weird on Sundays as was I. So my closest guess is you're just experiencing phantom pain and it will probably go away. Mine just transitioned to a different kind of anxiety that a user here told me and I think they were right. They said, what I was experiencing was grief because I experienced a loss of my career. So my phantom pain anxiety transitioned into an anxiety born out of grief and I got through that too. But there's a few phases and I think everybody's gonna go through different phases but if you're like me and you know you ran a business, I ran a business, your weekends were crazy, you know worried, filled with worry and Sundays were terrible just like I was. So if you're like me and it sounds like you're a little bit like me in that way, you're probably just experiencing phantom pain.